Most people undervalue what they are and overvalue what they are not. They see themselves at a lower perspective than they could or even should be. They are always looking for validation and acceptance. They thrive on approval and feel that others’ feelings, and opinions are more important than their own.
We are constantly measuring ourselves by the yardstick of others’ abilities and achievements while discounting or even ignoring our own. It's so unhealthy and damaging to our confidence and self-worth. We end up “hustling for our worth” and "placing an asking price on our value". We put more value on who we think we should be, rather than who we really are. And that's just not healthy for our mental, emotional and physical health. It slows down any progress we could have made towards goals or puts them to a stop.
I used to be one of those people. Needing and seeking validation for my own self worth. Now, I am a very long way from feeling like I’m not being or doing enough or needing validation from others. I pay close attention to the messages I’m sending myself. I take compliments but I don't place a value on them. I don't need them to believe in myself. I fully value what I am, who I am and what amazing things I can do. Rather than beat myself up for what I’m not. I stopped comparing my chapter 8 to someone else's chapter 20.
EVERYONE has something special to offer this world, let’s support each other as we learn to value and accept our own wonderfully unique talents, skills, abilities and achievements without seeking it from someone else.